Sometimes during a “Relapse Period” we go back. We pick up the phone just to hear their voice, or maybe you have been thinking about things and need an explanation, whatever the reason is your true test is here; they would like to sit down in person and have a meeting with you.
It’s funny because the devil always knows when to come in; he knows when you’re at your weakest moment. Here, you are vulnerable as ever and now they’re trying to see you. So, you agree to see them knowing it’s not the right thing, but you do it anyway.
We have to understand that the meeting is a test. God wants to see whether you will follow his direction or not. Some of you have been praying for a way out and now that he’s giving you one, will you go back because you’re in a vulnerable state? Some people will say they’re meeting to get confirmation or clarification when you had confirmation years ago when they were abusive. How much more clarification do you need if you know someone is a liar and cheater? You knew it wasn’t going to work out, but you stayed because of the kids, and they saw the abuse also. So why do they need a meeting, so they can tell you they’ve changed? It baffles me sometimes how people say they can change in a matter of days.
If you really need to see your ex have a good reason, don’t go just because you’re feeling lonely. If you need understanding, fine, also understand why they’re your ex.
Four Things to Remember When You’re Thinking About Meeting
- Think about the reason why you’re meeting
- If you need understanding, get it and move on
- Ask yourself, “Is seeing them the best thing for ME?”
- If God has moved you out of a bad situation, don’t turn back
Every break-up doesn’t end badly, if you can remain friends with your ex., that’s a plus. Some people have to be civil because children are involved and if that’s the case, you have gone through day eight and overcame it. However, if you are going through a bad break up and you’re having a rough time I hope day eight, the potential meeting, will help you.