Have you ever given someone a second chance at love? Did it work out? Was it hard to separate the past from the present? Would you give someone a second chance at love?
Far too often I see people going back to ex’s only to find themselves in a bad situation, again. It’s like we get so caught up into love – or thinking someone will change because they said they had, or even because of the history – that we forget what happen previously. Should we automatically forget what happen in the past just because someone is telling us they’ve changed? Can someone change in a period of two, three, or six months? Doesn’t change take time and isn’t it something you need when giving someone a second chance?
I recall the day I said I wanted to change the way I was treating women. I always considered myself a pretty good guy. I wasn’t out there hitting on women, cussing, or doing things I have seen other men do. Still, I had issues also, I was a cheater. I did things to women that may have emotionally scarred them. From my actions, they may feel like the next man would cheat also. Was I any better than a man who laid his hands on a woman? I felt I needed to change, and I did. Not because I wanted another chance with someone, more so because it was time for me to do the right thing and not cheat.
See change starts with self and if you’re (or they’re) willing to change, a second chance may be ok. We have to stop giving people chance after chance, and they continue to break our hearts. We have to give ourselves time to heal from abusers, liars, or cheaters. If you want a second chance, have you really changed? Even if you have it doesn’t mean you will be given another chance. Second chances aren’t for everyone.
Today if you’re thinking about giving someone a second chance, I want you to think about it. Ask yourself, “Have I given myself enough time to heal and forgive?” If not, move on and finish healing so you can be better prepared for someone else. If you are willing to forgive and move forward, be honest with your mate about your feelings. Make sure you see change in them and not just with them because you’re lonely.
A second chance should be the last chance, never let anyone be a revolving door in your world.