When Is It Time To Say Goodbye?

Have you ever stayed in a rela­tion­ship far too long? You knew it was time to hit the door but because of those three words,  I Love You, you stayed. Maybe you were in a rela­tion­ship because of the kids, not even wor­ry­ing about your hap­pi­ness, stay­ing in the rela­tion­ship for them. Is that the right thing to do? It all depends on who you ask. Still, should peo­ple stay in rela­tion­ships when they’re not happy? Do we stay in rela­tion­ships far too long? When is it time to say goodbye?

I have a good friend who’s been mar­ried for over 10 years and hasn’t been happy for a while. Her hus­band is very con­trol­ling, doesn’t treat her as a part­ner, more so like a child. Because they have kids, she feels oblig­ated to stay. He’s cheated and blamed her for his infi­delity, she stayed. He left the home once when they didn’t have any money and went back to his mother’s home. Not only did he leave the account in the neg­a­tive, he left the kids with noth­ing. Then he turns around and asks for sex; you have to draw the line some­where. Still, because they have kids, and she doesn’t like the idea of  los­ing her fam­ily, she wants to work it out.

I think the exam­ple above hap­pens to many of us. Not just women, men bat­tle know­ing when to say good­bye also. For most of us, there is no spe­cific time. There’s no road map telling peo­ple when to end a rela­tion­ship because every rela­tion­ship is dif­fer­ent. Still, stay­ing in an unhealthy rela­tion­ship isn’t healthy. Stay­ing in an abu­sive rela­tion­ship isn’t healthy. Stay­ing with some­one who has no respect for you isn’t healthy. Stay­ing because of the kids and hav­ing them watch it all, isn’t healthy for them.

Some­times it’s time to say good­bye, just don’t be afraid to move on.