In baseball you get three strikes and your out, in relationships it should be the same way, or should it? Most relationships start off great, most people are happy. You go out on romantic dates, people go above and beyond, and for the most part, people have no complaints. Still, some would like to think when the honeymoon period is over, there’s the real you. You know, the you that have secrets. Some wait for things to come up, an ex girlfriend, baby mother issue, or a husband or wife, their waiting on something. Others hope and pray these issues never come up, but if it does, they accept it like they always knew it was going to happen. Still, the majority of people I know are all about second chances. They will give someone, or wait on, the first strike. Now strike one can consist of many different things. Listed below are a few examples of when you’re on strike one.
Strike One Examples
- You start a relationship without telling them you have kids.
- You get into a new relationship but you’re still calling your ex.
- You get caught in a little “white” lie.
- You never stop calling people from your past.
Even with the examples given, people are still ok about given second chances. Don’t you think he should’ve told you he had kids long before getting involved? If he has kids, doesn’t he have baby mama’ drama? Maybe or maybe not, still, here comes the first lie, strike one, now you’re waiting on strike two and three in a new relationship. Remember in the game of baseball it’s three strikes and your out, will your relationship end up the same way?
Questions: Is it ok to give a second chance in a new relationship or are you setting yourself up for strike two and three?
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Well, I would have to say that the first example should not be an issue, because “Do you have kids?” should be one of the first question you ask a person in getting to know them. Calling their ex or people from the past is a sign that he or she is keeping back-ups just in case things don’t work out. This could further indicate that this person doesn’t know how to be alone. Although many people say they are single, most are dating without any true commitment to avoid loneliness. Knowing how to be single is more important than we know. Now lying is a thing I can’t tolerate. This person needs to get themselves together before they can incorporate someone else into their life. Of course you can only make such observation when you have you together. So to answer your question I would say that there is no need to hang around for strike two or three.