“My Work Is Driving Me Crazy But My Partner Is Tired Of Hearing It”

Some­times we work so hard we for­get the things that’s impor­tant to us. Fam­ily, friends, or our rela­tion­ship, find­ing bal­ance between work and play is some­thing many of us strug­gle with. We bring our work home or com­plain about issues we have, not really con­cerned about anyone’s day but your own. Is this fair? Should you ever bom­bard some­one with your prob­lems not know­ing how their day was? Many peo­ple do, and by doing this, many peo­ple push their part­ner away. Now no one is say­ing you shouldn’t talk to your girl­friend or boyfriend about issues your hav­ing, you should. Still, be mind­ful that your mate could’ve had a really rough day just like you did, don’t for­get to ask them about their day. Make sure the same way their lis­ten­ing to you, you’re lis­ten­ing to them. Know there’s a time and place for every­thing, some­times you shouldn’t talk about work at all. Exam­ple, if your part­ner has made a nice roman­tic din­ner, and they’re ready for a roman­tic night, the last thing they want to here is some­thing that could ruin the mood. So you ask, “What should I do when my work is dri­ving me crazy but my part­ner is tired of hear­ing it?” Here are 3 things that could help you if you’re in this situation.

1. Have A Bet­ter Atti­tude At Your Job

I knew a lady that came to work daily with a bad atti­tude. She always came to work com­plain­ing and brought a bad vibe to the work envi­ron­ment. It was always some­one else fault, she never was wrong, and she always caused drama. I always said to myself, “If she changed her atti­tude, she would be such a hap­pier person.”

Some peo­ple go into every job with the same atti­tude. Yes it will be some­thing about every job that you’re not going to like, but some­time it’s not the job it’s you. The rea­son you’re always hav­ing prob­lems on your job is because of your atti­tude. Hav­ing a bet­ter atti­tude can equal you being a bet­ter person.

2. If You’re Hav­ing Prob­lems Daily, Pick And Choose Your Time To Talk

I’m a firm believer in com­mu­ni­cat­ing, I feel it’s the num­ber 1 thing cou­ples should do. I feel you should be able to come to your part­ner and talk about any­thing. With that said, some­times you have to pick and choose your time to com­plain. No one wants to hear com­plain­ing every­day, no one. It can be a turn off.

3. Pray

Prayer can change everything.

Now I will be hon­est, most peo­ple who love their mate, it may be a while before they say any­thing. If your part­ner finds the time to express their con­cern about your com­plain­ing, lis­ten. Don’t get upset or shut down, just lis­ten and try to under­stand where they’re com­ing from. Your part­ner is there for you, yes they will lis­ten, but sooner, or later it  may be a turn off, so try to limit your complaining.

Again, no one is say­ing don’t talk, don’t com­plain, how­ever it’s a job, things aren’t going to go right. There will be days you will feel like every­thing is going wrong but when you leave for that day, don’t bring your work home.

Ques­tion: Do you bring your work home?