The Revolving Door

Is your rela­tion­ship a revolv­ing door that opens and closes all the time? Your Face­book rela­tion­ship sta­tus goes from Sin­gle to Rela­tion­ship to Com­pli­cated, back to Rela­tion­ship to Sin­gle.  Doesn’t that get old? Have you ever asked your­self, “Love shouldn’t be this hard?” I’m pretty sure you have asked your­self that, so today I ask you “What are you going to about it?”

The revolv­ing door is a prob­lem many peo­ple in rela­tion­ships encounter. They see their part­ner in and out all the time know­ing when they come knock­ing, the door will be open to them. I know rela­tion­ships can be hard but, at the same time the in and out must cease. You have to try and find hap­pi­ness with your part­ner. Yes you may love them but there’s a dif­fer­ence between love and happiness.

Defin­ing Love vs. Happiness

Web­ster Def­i­n­i­tion of Love:

• strong affec­tion for another aris­ing out of kin­ship or per­sonal ties
• attrac­tion based on sex­ual desire : affec­tion and ten­der­ness felt by lovers
• affec­tion based on admi­ra­tion, benev­o­lence, or com­mon interests

Love is some­thing we all want at the end of the day. We search for it, crave for it, and cher­ish it once we have it. Still, your strong affec­tion or your attrac­tion based on sex­ual desire doesn’t have any­thing to do with your hap­pi­ness. This just mean you love some­one based on admi­ra­tion or com­mon inter­ests you have with them.

Web­ster Def­i­n­i­tion of Happiness:

• obso­lete : good for­tune : prosperity
• a state of well-being and con­tent­ment : joy
• a plea­sur­able or sat­is­fy­ing experience

Find­ing true hap­pi­ness with some­one is very hard because most peo­ple can’t find hap­pi­ness within them­selves. Still, we desire to have the obso­lete enjoy­ment of our part­ner and when we can’t find that we just sub­sti­tute it for a plea­sur­able or sat­is­fy­ing experience.

Lov­ing your part­ner is great because love can hap­pen over time and because you’ve been with that per­son so long, you love them. Hap­pi­ness is the ulti­mate feel­ing to have with some­one. To just find joy with being with that per­son with­out doing any­thing is a won­der feel­ing and I think it’s a feel­ing many of us desire. Once you com­bine love and hap­pi­ness that revolv­ing door you’ve open and close should close for good and key should be thrown away for good.

What Will You Do & Your Advice

What will you do to close the door for good? Have you found com­plete hap­pi­ness with your part­ner, bet­ter yet, your­self? What advice would you give some­one that’s expe­ri­enc­ing there door open­ing and closing?