by Jason Smith on September 1, 2010
Sometimes we get involved with people to fill voids. We go into a relationship not even wanting to get involved, but because we think we need to be with someone, we get involved anyway. Why? Why get involved with someone knowing you didn’t want to be with them? Is someone missing in your life whom you feel like you’re chasing? Maybe something is missing, maybe it’s God you need in your life.
I recall getting involved with a woman trying to fill a void. Of course the first six months of the relationship were great but after the honeymoon period was over, the relationship was over. So after that relationship ended, I began another relationship, over and over I was doing the same things not understanding what I was looking for. Instead of taking time out to find myself, I hurt plenty of women, plenty of good women. It was my selfishness that landed me alone and now instead of chasing women, I’m chasing God.
Question: What are you chasing?
by Jason Smith on August 30, 2010
This is something many people struggles with, trying to stop having sex with someone they love, someone their really attracted to.
I see couples all the time that try to stop having sex when one partner has gotten their life right with God. I have tried it before in previous relationships only to find myself doing the same thing repeatedly, having sex.
Question: How can you stop having sex with someone you love after you’ve decided to devote your life to Christ?
by Jason Smith on August 18, 2010
In baseball you get three strikes and your out, in relationships it should be the same way, or should it? Most relationships start off great, most people are happy. You go out on romantic dates, people go above and beyond, and for the most part, people have no complaints. Still, some would like to think when the honeymoon period is over, there’s the real you. You know, the you that have secrets. Some wait for things to come up, an ex girlfriend, baby mother issue, or a husband or wife, their waiting on something. Others hope and pray these issues never come up, but if it does, they accept it like they always knew it was going to happen. Still, the majority of people I know are all about second chances. They will give someone, or wait on, the first strike. Now strike one can consist of many different things. Listed below are a few examples of when you’re on strike one.
Strike One Examples
- You start a relationship without telling them you have kids.
- You get into a new relationship but you’re still calling your ex.
- You get caught in a little “white” lie.
- You never stop calling people from your past.
Even with the examples given, people are still ok about given second chances. Don’t you think he should’ve told you he had kids long before getting involved? If he has kids, doesn’t he have baby mama’ drama? Maybe or maybe not, still, here comes the first lie, strike one, now you’re waiting on strike two and three in a new relationship. Remember in the game of baseball it’s three strikes and your out, will your relationship end up the same way?
Questions: Is it ok to give a second chance in a new relationship or are you setting yourself up for strike two and three?
by Jason Smith on August 16, 2010
I often hear, “When someone is fed up, it’s over,” is this true? I wonder how this varies between men and women. Are women able to deal with more none sense than men? I remember the R. Kelly’s song, when a woman’s fed up, his lyrics said:
Cuz when a woman’s fed up
(No matter how you beg, no)
It ain’t nothing you can do about it
(Nothing you can do about it)
It’s like running out of love
(No matter what you say, no)
And then it’s too late to talk about it
(Too late to talk about it)
Question: Are these lyrics true, once a woman’s fed up, “it ain’t nothing you can do about it?”
Sometimes we get involved with people to fill voids. We go into a relationship not even wanting to get involved, but because we think we need to be with someone, we get involved anyway. Why? Why get involved with someone knowing you didn’t want to be with them? Is someone missing in your life whom you feel like you’re chasing? Maybe something is missing, maybe it’s God you need in your life.
